Graham Prince, BA, MA, PgDip.

Addiction, Fantasy & Kink

Sex is a powerful experience and it can take time to learn how to enjoy it in such a way that it doesn't control or overwhelm us. If we can manage our sexual desires in the same way we manage our selves, we can start using sex creatively within our lives and our relationships. Sex therapy can help with the problems that arise and change them into something more positive.

Sex Addiction - The release and euphoria we experience in sex are so powerful that we can feel compelled to repeat again and again sexual experiences that turn us on. That's no bad thing unless the behaviour becomes so compulsive that it pushes other experiences and other people aside. Masturbation, viewing online pornography, or sex with multiple partners are not bad in themselves, but they can become compulsive. Scientific research has yet to establish whether we can become "addicted" to sex in the same way as to drugs or alcohol. However, if you feel that an aspect of your sex life has got out of control, I recommend you come for a consultation to discuss help or referral to specialist services.

Sexual Fantasies - Fantasies are essential to sex. The brain is the most powerful sex organ we have and being turned on mentally is as important as getting a firm erection or becoming well lubricated. However, many people are ashamed of their fantasies and keep them secret from partners. This can be unhealthy for your sex life and your relationship, as you may be excluding a key part of your sexuality. I don't judge the fantasies clients bring, however unusual or outrageous. I encourage them to share and be creative with them, and, when appropriate and safe, to explore them with partners. If you are keeping your fantasies to yourself, then your partner is probably doing the same. You are both likely to be missing out.

Kink - Some sexual behaviours are still regarded as "perversions" or "fetishes" by society, but those who enjoy them more often use the term "kink". The most common of these are BDSM and cross dressing. Many couples enjoy these behaviours occasionally in their sex play while others make them the main focus of sex. Accepting that you are interested in different forms of sexual expression can be difficult. Many think them shameful and if your partner is not comfortable with your kinks this can lead to tension. I don't judge any behaviour that is consensual between adults and I am happy to work with clients and couples who are exploring and coming to terms with kink behaviour in their sex lives.

I am always happy to discuss without obligation how I work and how I might be able to help. You might also find the following pages helpful:

Whatever the issue that you want to address, the most important step is to call a therapist to talk about it.


"From my early teens I got into a lot of addictive and dangerous sexual behaviour. Graham was the first therapist I had met who was able to accept this behaviour, was ready to work with it and could help me understand it. I now use it more creatively and it's no longer the only way I am able to express myself sexually."

J - Cardiff


I have experience working with both men and women who are struggling with various forms of sexual behaviour, ranging from compulsive use of online pornography to sexual activity in public places. I have worked with numerous clients to help them explore, process and creatively use and manage sexual fantasies and kink behaviour including BDSM, cross dressing and exhibitionism.


"Sexuality is a part of our behaviour. It's part of our world freedom. Sexuality is something that we ourselves create. It is our own creation, and much more than the discovery of a secret side of our desire. We have to understand that with our desires go new forms of relationships, new forms of love, new forms of creation. Sex is not a fatality; it's a possibility for creative life."

Michel Foucault